NavyBrat,
I appreciate your taking time to respond to my replies. I understand your points. I have only one more thing for you to think about.
Regarding the question of which one, Mitchell guy (Let's call him "Mr Pervert") and Mr stalker, is more dangerous... I wrote that Mr pervert is more dangerous than Mr stalker; you feel opposite.
First of all, I obviously don't know these guys and you are the only one who can judge. With that said, as a Y-chromosome myself, I can say a few things about a guy's psychology
in general.
Let me just start by saying that I've done exact same thing as Mr Stalker. Well, not exactly the same, but similar. Loooong time ago when I was 20's.
As a former "stalker" myself, I can tell you that,
in general, when we are chasing a girl, we have absolutely no idea about how our own behavior is being seen by the girl. Our brain is not wired to read the mind, so to speak.
What this means is that, until I was told that the girl had zero interest in me, I had thought I had a chance. I'm not going to tell you how she told me she didn't like me, because it still breaks my heart.
urpletea It was very CLEAR, I can tell you that, so even a man can understand.
So I believe that My Stalker has no idea how you are feeling. It doesn't make him dangerous; it does make him difficult to get rid of, unless you tell him, in no uncertain terms, that he has no chance.
The only thing here is I suppose My Stalker isn't in early 20's, so he is supposed to have learned multiple lessons like the one I just said. But again, I do know that even in 40's 50's 60's, some guys still stalk a woman and have no idea what the women might be feeling.
As to Mr Pervert, as a guy, I have no idea what this guy is thinking. That makes me nervous. That kind of talk, I must confess, guys do all the time among guys. We sort of enjoy all those rear-end "jokes."
However, we would be nuts if we tell that to a woman in a flower shop. I swear I have never done that. Most guys don't do that unless they are drunk or, in a weird way, trying to look macho in front of other women.
I think he is sick, which is the reason I feel he is more dangerous.
Finally, you might be interested in the story after she told me I had no chance. Well, I got drunk for about a few days and at the 4th day, I started chasing 2nd candidate.
No problem. Quick recovery.
Anyway, 15 years later, we met again by chance. I asked her what she did with all those letters I had written to her (I wrote over 50 love letters everyday). She told me that she had kept them for 12 years (10 years after marrying a guy) and then one day, decided to burn them all. She told me that they all became ashes. Never understand female psychology at all till this day.
