Announcement Several bits of news....and a plea for help.

Rick,

Is this guy or was this guy your boyfriend or just a friend???

Are the police not helping because of that very situation?

If so, there may be a gay advocacy group that may help in another state....I know we have one here but don't know if they cross state lines to help..I know someone that may be able to give me some info..he used to head up the gay advocacy group here in Boston as the liason to the state house for gay rights...he may know of some groups that help...There is also a gay domestice violence group here in Boston that may have chapters outside of Boston that help put the seriousness of gay domestic violence in perspective for police who can't or won't see it...i will do some digging and get you some info, hope it can help you...
 
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Yes, we began as bf and bf......then friends.........now just roommates......and yes, that is a part of the reason the police arent getting involved to a great degree,
 
Austin is a VERY gay friendly city. Despite the stereotype- Southern states are not "backward". Just some of the people are intolerant, just like anywhere....just sayin'.

Ricky- You are just going to have to put on your big boy shorts and take care of business.

1st-Call San Antonio job opportunity and get that ball rolling. You can look for apartments online, I'm sure you've noticed that the cost of living isn't very high in Texas.

2nd- Once you've secured your position- put the apartment in his name, if he's the one to stay. The name on the lease is who is responsible for the lease- period. If you have to break the lease- Break it.

3rd- pulling a bit of equity out of your house is about the best advice to get fast money as I've heard in this thread. You should be able to do everything you need to do with $5000. Break the lease, get a new apartment in San Antonio, You could even buy a used small pick up for $1500 to put all your stuff in and move. And Still have a couple thousand leftover- use it wisely.

I too have wished in my life that someone would/could rescue me....But it never happened. If I wanted change, I had to make the change myself. Once you begin the steps, it will all fall into place.
 
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Full-time Experienced Floral Designers Needed

Must Apply In Person

Looking for designers who are well experienced with fresh florals, creative, have good customer interaction skills, and have problem solving skills.

Must agree to background check & drug test

Apply at:
Thousand Oaks Florist
1583 Thousand Oaks STE # 115
San Antonio,TX 78232
(210) 545-3046

A listing from craigslist...there were several openings from this one add for different jobs within the same company...
 
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RWK said:
Yes, we began as bf and bf......then friends.........now just roommates......and yes, that is a part of the reason the police arent getting involved to a great degree,
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Sorry dude....

Austin's a great city... I LOVE 6th street ;)

I have a daughter in San Antonio... hmmmm... maybe I need to head to Texass.....
 
lori042499 said:
Full-time Experienced Floral Designers Needed

Must Apply In Person

Looking for designers who are well experienced with fresh florals, creative, have good customer interaction skills, and have problem solving skills.

Must agree to background check & drug test

Apply at:
Thousand Oaks Florist
1583 Thousand Oaks STE # 115
San Antonio,TX 78232
(210) 545-3046

A listing from craigslist...there were several openings from this one add for different jobs within the same company...
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I've talked to these people.......they are a reputable shop. Till now, the difficulty has been earning enough money to afford relocation costs from Austin to San Antonio, the afore mentioned shop Allen's Flowers has been the only one I have talked to to mention about assisting with relocation expenses.
 
Ricky - I'm really sick right now so I may be mushy headed but I'm almost positive I know Thousand Oaks (and I told them to look into you before they ran that ad) do you want me to call them and recommend you? I know they don't want drama so I would keep my personal business personal, don't want to sound harsh but real is real and no drama will get you the job faster.
Let me know
My thoughts are with you - you are the best prayer I know so keep praying it works!
 
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If you do know them Dee Dee, please do, I sent a resume via email.....I spoke to someone there, I think, not 100 percent sure,

Most certainly mention me.....Full time. I can resend a resume too.

Just use my email address......on record for AIFD and FlowerChat to get them to contact me.
 
Ricky, I'm interesting in knowing what happened to your settlement money?
Did this guy threaten or influence you n someway to give him your money?
If that is the case then tell that to the police. That you were in fear of your life and the guy demanded you give him the money.
Did he buddy up with you because you had spoken too freely about having a settlement?
Knowing a bit about the gay community in TX with co workers wway in the past, I know that there are good gay people, and there are those that would take your last dime leaving you feeling used and in fear.

Ricky, get out of this situation now, as everyone has said. You need to be near people who know you, and whom you know and can trust. Get there anyway you can now.
Also as someone said keep your mouth closed about your personal life, whom ever your talking to!

I am just really concerned that you allowed this guy to take your settlement! I'd bet he's a much younger man, preying on an older one. That's generally how it goes, and Ricky you know that. Be smarter with your life, take care of yourself. You don't need someone else to complete you. Your smart and talented and kind and God loves you just the way you are, and wants good things for you.

Do something for me, talk to God, just talk like he was in the room. No thee's and thou's necessary. Just say Jesus, Lord, man I've gotten myself into another mess. Forgive me of disappointing you, and help me to find a way out. Ricky,you say you have a church. I hope you do because you'll understand what I've just said. We all have our problems and disappoint God every single day of our lives. But with Grace we are forgiven, simply by asking for it. You know the story of Daniel praying for an answer, and God sent the angel immediately, but the angel was caught up in a battle in the heavenlys with deamons trying to stop him. The angel fought for a very very long time before he could get away and deliver that answer to the prayer.
I mention this as an encouragement to all who have prayers that seem unanswered right now. I personally have been fighting a battle with ATT for two years. They were destroying my business. Well just last Saturday, things broke open in a miraculous way and all the errors were fixed and I know God did it for me. If just took awhile to get here. I also know it must be one whale of a big blessing or satan wouldn't have fought so hard and long to delay me getting it.

Ricky, Please consider all I've said, because short of coming to get you, which I can't, your going to have to depend on God and yourself.
 
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Thankfully, the settlement money isn't an issue per se, granted, I don't have direct access to it as the majority of it that was left after renovating my home, perhaps I should not have done, but at the time, I thought it was a good idea, is to put it into four high yield cd's for Mom's grandchildren. The way I set up the funds is that it takes a dual signature of myself AND both parents to withdraw any monies till the child reaches 21......and no withdrawal is approved.....even with signatures, without presenting a clear set plan for putting the money back. Stringent.....yes, out of the ordinary....yes.....unusual....yes. The reasoning for that set-up at the time was that my sister and her husband love to spend......and if I had just given that money as a regular account........it would have been LONG gone by now.

I am talking to the Lord daily......and things are progressing.

Also, the only reason I used flowerchat as a kind of venting.....is that I needed to let out the frustrations and fears......and this forum is private ....not just any Tom, Dick, and Harry can access it. So there is a modicum of privacy that the outside.....non-floral world....of which he is a part of......has no means, way, or method of access.
 
Ricky that's great that you didn't lose your settlement money! I told you you were a smart man. That proves it.
Yes FC is your family and you can "vent" here anytime and find people who care about you. No judgement just love.

Sleep safely tonight my friend, and better tomorrows!

Carolyn
 
I'm so glad you're keeping us updated, Ricky. We are all praying for you and want to see you in a safe place again.
 
Well, to bring you all a bit of an update - If things work out, January 5th, I am due to begin working full-time at Allen's Flowers in San Antonio, Texas as their lead designer. The owner of the flower shop also owns a wholesale florist as well.

The biggest hurdle to beginning there is getting what few possesions I have moved to a small apartment there on the busline as I will have, at least for a time, no transportation except for the availability of public transportation.

The biggest drawback is that the payscale is not what I would think to be consistent with what a lead designer should be making......at least starting out......but the owner and I agree that there is room for me to go up in payscale.

So, unless one or more of my fellow florists presents me with a better opportunity between Now and January 5th, I will be leaving Austin for San Antonio.
 
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Well, I am officially moved, ensconced in San Antonio, in a ONE bedroom apartment, just enough room for me and the dog. I am on the busline, so I can rely on mass transit for a while to get back and forth to work. And I begin work at Allen's Flowers and Gifts at 9 am tomorrow morning. Will take me about a 45 minute busride.

Until I can get some money saved up though.....you would LAUGH at how sparsely furnished my apartment is........talk about minimalism......I have a air-mattress for my bed, a dog carrier crate for a nightstand, a laundry basket for a computer table/desk, and that is IT regarding furniture. lol . If things go right, I hope to have some furniture moved from SC to here in about a month or so, but until then, I am living SPARSE. lol
 
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It is amazing how little we actually need. When you start over as you have, a dog, a crate and an air mattress are all you need. It sounds like you got out of a bad situation alive, and that is the most important thing. good luck in your new job.
 
Yard sale!!! a bit of this, a bit of that... $1, $2...you'll be comfy until your stuff arrives :)
 
Have to put off the yard sales...........after two days.....Allen's decided that they did not want me working there !!!!!

I am AIFD, I am an award winning designer, so what if I am 47, so what if I have a metal rod from the accident..........I am not letting that stop me. The 87 year old owner decided that she did not want to risk the possibility of me injuring myself.


So, Allen's Flowers and Gift and Best Wholesale Company in San Antonio.......I worked HARD trying to land that job and then they up and do this? They are at McCullough and Asby streets.

So, the job hunt begins anew.
 
No Shannon....It didn't then and it doesn't now. I have no clue what the old lady was thinking.....She is 87 though.....maybe senility?
 
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