Well I'm gonna say it...
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BOSS
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By the way - I want to thank Ryan for running those stats on me - I had no idea that 90% of my posts are floral or business related.
maybe I need more jokes
we're almost to 20 pages and when we get there the mods buy pizza for everybody you know...
maybe I need more jokes
we're almost to 20 pages and when we get there the mods buy pizza for everybody you know...
BOSS
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prestonway
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D ~ need some popcorn while we're waiting for the pizza to arrive!
Wow... an apology. I was just beginning to REALLY feel bad for your wife. I thought you weren't capable of actually saying the word "sorry". It appears to do have a sweet side. It only took 19 FC pages to find it.
I keep asking myself... why am I still reading this crap thread, but I can't stop!
Can someone please fill me in on this inside joke? PM is ok too.
You definitely need more jokes. Plus, you're kinda quiet in the political forum too. Debates are way better than this drama BS!
LJVF
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FlowerChat is so much more than it's simple original conception as relating to florist issues. Anyone of intelligence can see it has become a social network of like-minds. That being said, I think people find it very easy to be negative online in ways that they would not in real life. Something about being online and relatively anonymous gives people the courage to be really vicious with other people in a way that they might not be in face-to-face interaction.
There's also the fantasy aspect, because people build all these social networks built on projection. You can think your friends are really great, because you don't have to deal with as many of their negative aspects in a way that you would if you had to spend a lot of face time with them. Spending face-to-face time with people requires using a lot of psychological and emotional skills not required online, such as reading facial and vocal cues, body language, etc. These are things you use later in life when dealing with people in the job market, dating, etc.
People who are creating fantasy images of their online social networks may also begin to find that their own self image is no longer "good enough." There is a known correlation between time spent online and depression. Now, correlation means that we don't know a causal factor, but certainly if you're spending a lot of time online in chat with a fantasy social life, and neglecting a real social life, and now the real you is no longer good enough, depression is going to likely follow (in this instance). I think it can't be good for one's self image, at the very least.
These are some of the possible negative effects of chat rooms that I've noticed and have spent some time thinking about lately. Think about this as we post our next reply. Some of us battle with things maybe not battled by you. A simple snide remark like "Ricky is a Moron" might be a devastating blow to Ricky though you thought it cute.
All I saying is proceed with care and consideration.
There's also the fantasy aspect, because people build all these social networks built on projection. You can think your friends are really great, because you don't have to deal with as many of their negative aspects in a way that you would if you had to spend a lot of face time with them. Spending face-to-face time with people requires using a lot of psychological and emotional skills not required online, such as reading facial and vocal cues, body language, etc. These are things you use later in life when dealing with people in the job market, dating, etc.
People who are creating fantasy images of their online social networks may also begin to find that their own self image is no longer "good enough." There is a known correlation between time spent online and depression. Now, correlation means that we don't know a causal factor, but certainly if you're spending a lot of time online in chat with a fantasy social life, and neglecting a real social life, and now the real you is no longer good enough, depression is going to likely follow (in this instance). I think it can't be good for one's self image, at the very least.
These are some of the possible negative effects of chat rooms that I've noticed and have spent some time thinking about lately. Think about this as we post our next reply. Some of us battle with things maybe not battled by you. A simple snide remark like "Ricky is a Moron" might be a devastating blow to Ricky though you thought it cute.
All I saying is proceed with care and consideration.
A little story...
When I was 21 I married my first husband. My quest was to be the Queen Bee of the relationship. Then one day about 6 years later, I realized that I had indeed become the Queen and I had successfully convinced him that I was indeed right ALL of the time. I got bored with him then and divorced him. My second husband still isn't convinced that I am right ALL the time and I couldn't live without him!
My relationship with FC is NEVER boring and I don't think I will ever convince anyone here that I am right ALL the time so therefore I will be here forever.....sorry.
When I was 21 I married my first husband. My quest was to be the Queen Bee of the relationship. Then one day about 6 years later, I realized that I had indeed become the Queen and I had successfully convinced him that I was indeed right ALL of the time. I got bored with him then and divorced him. My second husband still isn't convinced that I am right ALL the time and I couldn't live without him!
My relationship with FC is NEVER boring and I don't think I will ever convince anyone here that I am right ALL the time so therefore I will be here forever.....sorry.
Thom and Shannon's post have really spoken to me....you just don't know what is going on in someone's life all the time. We know each other here on the boards but we don't know all aspects of our lives...there are things going on behind the scenes in our personal and/or professional lives that maybe we just don't want to share or feel embarrassed to share with the group here.
I think it is very important to always think of the other person's feelings when posting something. It is understandable that there will be a time when someone's just had enough and they will strike out. One must think, "Is this so and so's normal behavior here? Do they always act like this?" If you can answer No without a doubt then maybe just maybe something is going on. One can give that person just a little slack, be a little understanding. It won't kill you to give a little sympathy, a little forgiveness and a little compassion just don't give it all away.
FC is an awesome thing.... I am richer for it.
I think it is very important to always think of the other person's feelings when posting something. It is understandable that there will be a time when someone's just had enough and they will strike out. One must think, "Is this so and so's normal behavior here? Do they always act like this?" If you can answer No without a doubt then maybe just maybe something is going on. One can give that person just a little slack, be a little understanding. It won't kill you to give a little sympathy, a little forgiveness and a little compassion just don't give it all away.
FC is an awesome thing.... I am richer for it.
Connie
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Well, I went back and finished reading this thread.
My family has a website. A couple of weeks ago, I became very annoyed at some of the political comments that were being made there. They were just offensive to me and totally unrelated to family news. Or so I thought.
I need to go there and remember that their erroneous (*wink*) opinions are just simply their opinions, and my being offended is being felt only by myself. They are, I'm certain, still enjoying posting and reading everyday. I'm the sufferer, the loser there because I chose to remove myself from the chatter.
My feelings have been hurt here a time or two. My wrist has been figuratively slapped a time or two. I've learned from all of those times.
Gee! What I'm trying to say is that we really are family. Just look at how we argue, scream at each other, pout, and kiss and make up.
I think it was Chez who said, I just love a ya'll.
My family has a website. A couple of weeks ago, I became very annoyed at some of the political comments that were being made there. They were just offensive to me and totally unrelated to family news. Or so I thought.
I need to go there and remember that their erroneous (*wink*) opinions are just simply their opinions, and my being offended is being felt only by myself. They are, I'm certain, still enjoying posting and reading everyday. I'm the sufferer, the loser there because I chose to remove myself from the chatter.
My feelings have been hurt here a time or two. My wrist has been figuratively slapped a time or two. I've learned from all of those times.
Gee! What I'm trying to say is that we really are family. Just look at how we argue, scream at each other, pout, and kiss and make up.
I think it was Chez who said, I just love a ya'll.
avenuegardensflorist
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A little story...
When I was 21 I married my first husband. My quest was to be the Queen Bee of the relationship. Then one day about 6 years later, I realized that I had indeed become the Queen and I had successfully convinced him that I was indeed right ALL of the time. I got bored with him then and divorced him. My second husband still isn't convinced that I am right ALL the time and I couldn't live without him!
My relationship with FC is NEVER boring and I don't think I will ever convince anyone here that I am right ALL the time so therefore I will be here forever.....sorry.
....note to us king wanna bee men.
Never wait to get stung!
prestonway
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Gee, I guess my "snide remark" did tick somebody off...so it worked.
Nothing personal.
Spending too much time on the chat rooms leading to depression?
Hmmm...get off the chat rooms, maybe?
Or at least get a tougher skin...we're not therapists.
aww go skru yerself preston.
Will someone please pass the Teddy Bear?
I'm feeling a bit insecure again.....
Will someone please pass the Teddy Bear?
I'm feeling a bit insecure again.....
Tracy D'Amico
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Am I the only one who saw the double dog dare, and the response? Geeze louise can we lighten up a little?
Ricky, hope you ponied up to everyone your $10 ca$ino $$!
alisonm1215
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